APOLOGIA: Provf Talk: Is same-sex marriage like a Subway sandwich?
SAME-SEX RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS Who's gonna make us sandwiches? What do we do with all these sandwiches? from Items tagged as Sandwich Meme . Funny; Shared by iStabs. The problem with same-sex marriage. That's why I founded the sandwiches for gay guys charity. Lesbian couples. Furthermore, according to Somerville, same-sex marriage may normalize In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) and thereby exacerbate IVF's problems.
But same-sex marriage along with divorce and single parenting takes society another step away from this ideal. Also, McGill University ethicist Margaret Somerville points out that same-sex marriage abolishes the child's biologically-based moral right to know and be raised by both biological parents.
IVF creates leftover frozen human embryos, i. Also, same-sex marriage is conceptually wed to a non-fallacious slippery slope. According to Anderson, once we redefine marriage broadly as committed adult intimacy instead of the union of a heterosexual couple, why not accept a "throuple" rhymes with "couple" but involves three or more?
The rationale for "couple" derives from the one-man-one-woman sexual union requirement—but this requirement has been abandoned. So why stop at two? Why not a polyamorous relationship? If loving commitment is a sufficient condition for marriage, and if one man and one woman are no longer a necessary condition, then if you love X, you should be able to marry X. But X is a placeholder.
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Finally, religious liberty is affected. But with legalized same-sex marriage, public institutions must embrace same-sex marriage as a good that's equivalent to heterosexual marriage. This afternoon I will look at a short argument that defends same-sex marriage, an argument by analogy. This argument by analogy appears often as a meme on Facebook and other social media, and seems to persuade many. I will set out the argument and then I will assess it.
First, some preliminary clarifications. Nevertheless, I am also interested in the pursuit of truth and careful reasoning. I believe love, truth, and logic not only can co-exist, but also are essentially one — part of the Logos. I sometimes hear the objection that if you disagree with persons who identify as LGBTQ, then you are a hater. This is a mistake in reasoning which occurs when we assume that there are only two options, when there are actually three or moreyet we go on to assume that one of the two options must be the way to go.
Please keep in mind that dismissing my argument because I am allegedly homophobic is to commit two errors. Some historical perspective on same-sex marriage is helpful, too. In Canada same-sex marriage was elevated to the same legal status as heterosexual marriage in For some broader perspective, here are other dates in which same-sex marriage was made legal in other countries: In other words, the elevation of the legal status of same-sex marriage to that of heterosexual marriage is recent relative to the broad sweep of history.
Statement of the argument A popular internet argument — a meme — dismisses concerns about same-sex marriage by drawing a comparison between same-sex marriage and choosing a Subway sandwich. Here is the argument: The guy in front of me ordered a different sub. This is what people sound like when they say gay marriage affects them. Thus, voicing concerns about gay marriage is silly — laughable. The concerns should be dismissed. In other words, like choosing a Subway sandwich, same-sex marriage is merely a personal matter.
The Subway sandwich argument is a version of the same argument set forth by same-sex marriage proponents prior to but without the sandwich analogy: To which I now say: Assessment of the argument The argument by analogy is faulty.
The comparison fails in a crucially relevant way. It affects others in at least four ways. Changes public understanding of marriage Impacts children Puts us on a slippery slope Threatens democratic health 1. Well, let me just say at the moment that this is a change which affects others, i.
It changes that understanding. In the words of the Honourable Bradley W. Impacts children The change in the public understanding of marriage impacts more than merely those who are getting married. Here is a summary of the work of political philosopher Ryan T. Reliable studies from social sciences strongly suggest parenting by married biological parents — i. Redefinition of marriage along with divorce and single parenting takes society another step away from this ideal.
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It redefines the purpose of marriage, the understanding of marriage. It will center marriage not on ensuring the best stable environment for children but about consenting adult romance. It makes men and women, mothers and fathers, inter-changeable. And, according to Somerville and Anderson and othersit carries with it some concerns about the well-being of children. According to Somerville, same-sex marriage may normalize reproductive technologies, e. IVF is the medical procedure by which an egg and a sperm are united to create a new human being in a laboratory, in a petri dish, and then this embryo—this human being at its first stage—is put into a womb and is born nine months later.
The problem with same-sex marriage
Remember that same-sex couples cannot reproduce sexually because of the non-complementariness of the sexes. On their own, two men cannot make a baby.
On their own, two women cannot make a baby. But this means that the problems associated with IVF will be exacerbated. What are those problems? IVF creates leftover frozen human embryos, i. IVF exploits women as surrogates and egg suppliers—especially vulnerable women. Eggsploitation and Breeders: A subclass of women? IVF threatens to turn children into commodities. Is this a new human trafficking? Surely, this is unfair to the children so created. And it's more unfair if sexual as well as gender differentiated parenting are important to the child's well-being, as seems to be the case.
The change in the public understanding of marriage impacts more than merely those who are getting married. Why not polygamous or polyamorous relationships? Popular culture is already slipping in this direction. Moreover, the slippery slope may have a darker dimension. If loving commitment is a sufficient condition for marriage, and if, as we hear often today, love is love is love, then it would seem to follow that if you love X, you should be able to marry X.
But X is a placeholder. Why not marry my cousin?
Is Same-Sex Marriage Like a Subway Sandwich?
This was asked in Ireland. Why not my sister, if I love her? This was asked by an Australian judge in Love is love is love, right? Thirty to forty years ago, same-sex marriage was unthinkable I am old enough to remember this. Add that to our growing list of gender identities. I know this sounds farfetched. Nevertheless, we should keep in mind these sobering if not prophetic words from philosopher Francis A.
Schaeffer and former Surgeon General C. Crossway Books, ], According to Honourable Bradley W. With legalized same-sex marriage, public institutions must embrace same-sex marriage as a good that's equivalent to heterosexual marriage. As a result, many public school children are taught what their parents believe is immoral.
For example, in Hanover School District where I live local activists are attempting to use the force of law to promote LGBTQ ideology in public schools in the academic curriculum of young childrenin spite of what dissenting parents think. This is also occurring in other Canadian provinces, in the U. For example, one U. The baker otherwise serves all gays; he just doesn't use his talents to make a cake for same-sex weddings, as he doesn't make cakes for stag parties or other events that are contrary to his conscience.
So this is not analogous to not serving blacks at a s Woolworth's lunch counter. For further discussion of the cake and conscience situation, see my article Cakes and conscience.
See too Claire Chretien, Black Leaders: Declining to bake a gay 'wedding' cake isn't the same as racism.How To Maintain a Healthy Longterm Relationship - Marriage & Dating Advice
A Michigan farmer can't take his produce to market because he doesn't affirm same-sex marriage. Closer to home, there is Trinity Western University. TWU is a Christian school like Providence which asks its students to abide by a community covenant that holds to the traditional biblical understanding that sexual intimacy is to be reserved between one man and one woman in marriage.
TWU's proposed law school is being taken to the Supreme Court of Canada on this issue, today November 30,at this very hour. These businesses and schools are facing serious legal and financial difficulties because of same-sex marriage and LGBTQ activism. Also in Canada, an Alberta couple is presently having difficulty adopting a child because they do not approve of same-sex marriage. Is this fair in a democratic society?