Dr. Jennifer Howard's Blog - The Five Most Unforgivable Lies in a Relationship
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Can a relationship that is based on a lie, or multiple lies, actually work? For instance, a girlfriend of mine dated a guy who said that he had a child with a woman he used to date who lived in Grenada, where his people were from.
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She ran for the hills. A woman shared a story on a forum about a guy she was dating who had a pretty wholesome past. When he asked her about her sexual past, she lied about it initially. I got to know a guy who seemed nice.
He was handsome enough, had a pretty good job, and we had a bit in common. But he lied from jump, as I would later find out, about the true state of his situation. I would find out from his sister-in-law that he was the one holding that whole traditional Nigerian engagement process up so he could be out here.
Or maybe she wants you to think she's all natural. Whatever the case may be, this area is ripe for lies.
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Relationship guru Sarah Jones shared some advice with Muscle and Fitness: But over time, hopefully, she feels comfortable, to be honest about it. Otherwise, she may live with the lie for a long time. Pinterest Social media makes dating easier and harder at the same time.
On the one hand, it makes communication and meeting people easier than ever.
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On the other, it creates ambiguity and other complicated dynamics. In a sense, a part of dating these days takes place digitally. While traditional dating mostly happened face-to-face, social media allows for nuanced interactions through SMS, message boards and more in order to connect with others. But since the face-to-face aspect is missing, people now communicate through a digital medium where the other isn't always physically visible. That leaves room for deceit and facades.
While her intentions could be good, she may lie about herself over social media to appear more presentable. If one even considers dating sites like OkCupid, eHarmony along with others, people create profiles to appeal to others.
Their wellbeing and future in many ways depend on that first impression and how others perceive them online. In pointing out the obvious, that means more than half of the dating profiles online contain false information. If you take everything in her profile as fact, she might be playing you.
What's the harm in little white lies if it gets someone what they want, after all? It's not unusual for her to pretend to be interested in some of the things that you're interested in. If she starts liking your favorite sports team, there's probably more behind it than a genuine love for the team. If something feels fishy, pay attention to it.
But don't jump to conclusions. If you've been dating her for some time, Jones suggests looking at her past. Is there anything that indicates she might be lying about her interests?
But most of all, you should want a relationship to have open-communication without illusions or pressure to do things each of you doesn't really want to do.
I can't take him back no matter how charming he seems to be right now.
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A fifty-something woman confided to me about what her new husband had done that constituted a complete marital trust breaker. In the glow and trust of a new marriage she had put his name on her checking account. A week after coming home from her honeymoon she had gone to cash a check for two hundred dollars only to be told there were insufficient funds in her account. Her new husband it seemed had used her money to pay off his heavy debts he had accumulated with his first wife, debts this wife knew nothing about!
He had told her that he was debt-free when they were dating. After I left he wanted to 'try again' but I was not willing to be with someone who was untrustworthy.
Lies such as, "I didn't call because my cell phone died.
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Don't you trust me? The lies may seem innocuous and innocent but the reality is that this person feels lies are acceptable.
He or she may lie about being late coming home or say they did something that you needed done but in reality didn't do it. No major lies about infidelity or money but a pattern is being established where lying becomes second nature to the truth. Stop making excuses for the person who lies to you over and over again. That person is not going to change and you can't expect him or her to be truthful.How To Stop My Lying Spouse And Start Having An Honest Relationship